Confessions of a 40-Something Fangirl

I recently shared my jubilation after attending Matchbox Twenty’s first Eora/Sydney show on the long-awaited Slow Dream tour. That was one of three Matchbox shows I attended in just eight days this tour. I considered writing a review of each one, as each was special in its own right, but instead, with the dust settling on that frenetic, fantastic period I thought instead I’d write a post about embracing your deep passion for a band.

Twelve years is an awfully long time to be without live shows from your favourite band. It’s what inspired me to buy tickets to several concerts this tour. Depending on your perspective, three shows in a single tour might be a lot or it might be fairly conservative for a hardcore fan. For me it was the sweet spot. In 2012, the last time Matchbox played Australia, I bought tickets to a single show. I reasoned that I was a wife now, we were saving for a house, I had more important things to spend my money on. In truth though, nothing is more important than embracing a deep passion. I saw my single show and I loved it, but then I crashed hard. So much build-up to a tour and then it was all over in a matter of hours. I swore I’d never just do a single show for this band or Rob solo again.


I haven’t done three shows in a tour since Matchbox came out here for their More Than You Think You Are tour in 2003. I haven’t seen a local show and still travelled interstate since John Mayer came out for his Room for Squares tour in 2002. Back then I was a single woman, still living with my parents. I had no responsibilities beyond a retail job, so I thought nothing of just taking off for a little “me” time. What I learned this tour is that you’re never too far away from that person, no matter how years pass. And you owe it to yourself to nurture that part of you when you can.

So this time, three shows. A couple of days in between each one to catch my breath and get excited about the next one. I’m so glad I did it. The first show totally overwhelmed me. It was a whirlwind, with my emotions just on the surface through the whole thing. It was beautiful, but I was so glad I had Mulubinba/Newcastle a few days later to enjoy a little more calmly. I was a couple of rows further back, so I felt I could take that one in a little more, without all my heightened emotions getting in the way. In Meeanjin/Brisbane a few days after that I had second row seats, so I was just in it. I allowed myself to take photos in just two songs and put my camera away for the rest of it. In Mulubinba/Newcastle, without my husband there, I felt pressure to capture all the moments and that took me out of songs. In Meeanjin/Brisbane, I told myself just to remember them, feel them. They’re all in there. I danced hard, I sang loud (the evidence it all over my friend’s videos!), I was there.

Oh, and somewhere in there, I happened to catch a flight with my favourite band. I’m not a great believer in manifesting or things of that nature, but I’m thrilled I got some time to chat to them, to thank them for returning after all this time, to get signatures on my favourite album 15 years after my original signed copy was stolen. It really made this tour better than I could have ever hoped it to be.

The beautiful thing about seeing more than one show on a tour is that every extra gig feels like a bonus. I have had the most wonderful, exciting, week or so of my life, but I’m not crashing as I rejoin the real world. I’m holding memories close and they’ll satisfy me until the next time, whenever that may be. I know with the cost of living, not everyone is in the position to see multiple shows on a tour, to travel interstate. Not everyone has friends and family willing to put them up or drive them around when they’re there. Not everyone has a spouse willing to support them taking time out from their adult responsibilities for a while or a job that’s as flexible as mine. But if you CAN do it, I definitely recommend that you do. It’s good for the soul. As Rob Thomas encourages in one of their new songs “Rebels”, “Let go and be yourself right now.” Believe me, it’s really good advice.

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Matchbox Twenty @ Qudos Bank Arena, Eora/Sydney – 20 February 2024

Music can be such a powerful force. It can help you feel seen and understood at times when you think no one in your orbit gets you. It can lift you up and it can comfort you. If you’re lucky, you find a band that resonates with you so deeply that their music becomes a companion for you throughout your life. The band evolves as you do, and you somehow stay in alignment. For me, that band is Matchbox Twenty. I can’t write a review of their Eora/Sydney show last night with any sense of objectivity, but I can share what it was like to see my favourite band after 12 long years.

Siobhan Cotchin was an interesting choice of opener for a night featuring two bands who had their biggest hits in the ’90s. Personally I was thrilled to see her perform live after being impressed by so many of her singles. She’s such a fierce presence on stage. She sounded incredible, and looked every inch the rock chick flanked by nearly identical long-haired male guitarists. But there were a few things working against her. She was a fresh artist playing on a bill with some fairly-established bands. And her set started at 6:45, so people were still shuffling around and finding their seats. If it got to her she didn’t show it, but I wish she’d been able to have the captive audience she deserved.

You could feel the energy levels lift a notch when the Goo Goo Dolls took the stage. These guys haven’t toured Australia for 22 years and I could tell there were many die-hard fans relishing their return. Just not enough for lead singer John Rzeznik’s liking apparently. I hate to be a downer when there was so much to like about their set. They played everything I wanted to hear in their generous 45 minutes on stage, which is impressive considering how closely I’ve followed their career over the years. They sounded great and performed with a lot of energy. But there was a sense of entitlement from John that I found so off-putting. He made comments that the people sitting near the front must really love their expensive seats, because they didn’t want to get off them, and later called them miserable. When people did respond enthusiastically, he commented that we did have a pulse. I’m not into artists who want to tell me how to spend my time at their shows. If it feels right to stand, I’ll stand. But often I want to sit, especially as I get older, and that’s my right too. I think he needs to remember that his band was the support act, one who had just two top 30 hits in this country. I love their music, and many more than those two big songs, but his attitude really took the gloss off their solid set.

Oh Matchbox Twenty. The love I have for this band runs so deep. I spent the whole first song, “Friends,” sobbing because I was just so overwhelmed. Listening to those lyrics which reference being surrounded by community, the way I always feel at a Matchbox show, really hit home. My feelings were so heightened all the way through this gig as I listened to the songs that were the soundtrack to my life and spent time with the men that created them.

Matchbox know how to get the balance right. There were almost as many songs from their debut album Yourself or Someone Like You as there were from their latest release, Where the Light Goes. Casual fans who only listened to the band on the radio could check off every hit. But then there were those deep album cuts like “Hand Me Down” and “Parade” that those of us who followed their careers more closely relished. More tears.

There’s a special magic about a band who’ve been together for decades. Especially when they aren’t constantly on the road, you can see the camaraderie, the love they have for one another and the music they make together. We missed bassist Brian “Pookie” Yale, who couldn’t make the trip, terribly, but getting to see Rob Thomas, Paul Doucette, and Kyle Cook together was beautiful. I’ve gushed about Rob Thomas before, but I honestly love every member of this band. They play so well together, and they surround themselves with some outstanding musicians who step up and fill the gaps. I can’t express how much I loved spending time with them and the songs that made me last night. I’m so thrilled that I have tickets to two more shows on the Slow Dream tour. I’ve waited far too long for these concerts to be done just yet. Bring on the next one.

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Matchbox Twenty @ Entertainment Centre, Sydney – 30 October 2012

We’ve all had those bands that have crossed our paths and changed our lives. They provided the soundtrack for pivotal moments, and made us feel less alone in our darkest hour. For me that band is Matchbox Twenty.

I’ve seen them live more times than I remember, but I love them just as much as I ever did. I’m not the angsty teenager I was when they first turned my head, but as their music’s evolved they’ve remained just as relevant to me. And so my excitement was at fever pitch as I headed to the Sydney Entertainment Centre last Tuesday.

I’m ashamed to admit that I missed Evermore’s set, preferring instead to catch up with an old friend over red wine at the Holiday Inn across the road. We took our seats somewhere near the start of INXS’s set. I’d hoped to catch the entire thing, but I soon decided I hadn’t missed much.

INXS are undoubtedly one of Australia’s most enduring rock acts. They have created some of the world’s best pop rock anthems, and they sound just as tight as ever. Yet the parade of lead singers that have fronted the band in recent years has really let them down. Watching newbie Ciaran Gribbin prowl around the stage, I’m still not convinced they’ve got the mix right.

It’s not that Ciaran is a bad frontman, but his voice is pretty unremarkable. His stage manner also feels really derivative. At times it felt he was simply emulating the singers that came before, and I cringed when he thrust his face close to those of the girls in the front row. There can be a fine line between sexy and creepy, and he definitely crossed it. Some of the songs, including my favourite “Never Tear Us Apart” also felt overblown and cheesy. I still found myself compelled to get to my feet and dance around on a few occasions, but that can be attributed to the strength of the songs rather than the performance.

The night predictably took a turn for the better when Matchbox Twenty stepped out on stage. They opened with “Parade,” just as their new album North does, a reminder that they wouldn’t just rest on the hits of the past. However it wasn’t long before those familiar tunes came out to, to rapturous applause.

Matchbox Twenty did a great job of pleasing all their fans, with a set which drew from their entire back catalogue. I was thrilled to see them celebrating not just the singles but other strong album songs like More Than You Think You Are’s hidden track “So Sad So Lonely” and my latest favourite “Our Song.” The delicate “I Will” was gorgeous, and I couldn’t help wiping away tears as they performed “Push,” the first Matchbox song that touched me all those years ago. While I adore Rob Thomas, it was also exciting to see him stepping down from vocal duties for Kyle Cook’s shining moment, “The Way.” INXS returned for the final song, a cover of “Good Times,” an appropriate number considering the smiles on all the musicians’ faces.

This isn’t a night I can write about with any sense of impartiality. Seeing my favourite band is always something so special. I danced until my feet were sore, sang until my voice was hoarse, and marvelled at the magic that always comes when I spend time in the presence of this incredible band. Above all, their set was a set that made me feel. Rob Thomas has a way of making you forget that he’s sung many of these songs for more than a decade. He leaves his heart on the stage. His passion and charisma move you, and he’s only enhanced by his stellar band. And that is why I keep coming back. That is why Matchbox Twenty is my favourite band.

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Matchbox Twenty Kicking Off North Tour Down Under

Matchbox Twenty have made no secret of their love for Australia, so perhaps it’s unsurprising that they’ll kick off their world tour here in October. However it’s still enough to send a long-time fan like me into a tailspin.

The band will play songs from their new album North, which will hit local record stores on August 31, as well as the rest of their back catalogue. They’ll also have our own INXS in tow.

Tickets go on sale on August 31 through LiveNation, which should make that day pretty special for the rest of the Matchbox lovers out there!

20 October 2012 – Rod Laver Arena, Melbourne
25 October 2012 – AIS Arena, Canberra
27 October 2012 – Entertainment Centre, Brisbane
30 October 2012 – Entertainment Centre, Sydney
3 November 2012 – Hope Estate, Hunter Valley
6 November 2012 – Entertainment Centre, Wollongong
8 November 2012 – Entertainment Centre, Adelaide
11 November 2012 – Perth Arena, Perth

Matchbox Twenty @ Tempus Two Winery, Hunter Valley – 19 April 2008

There are very few bands I’d stand out in the rain to see. But last night I did it for Matchbox Twenty, and I’d happily do it again.

Honestly, I was thrilled the concert went ahead at all. When I awoke in the morning to see rain falling steadily I convinced myself it’d be called off. But it all seemed to clear during the day, and I began to breathe a little easier. That is, until we arrived at Tempus Two to see the ominous black clouds.

The heavens opened up before Thirsty Merc even took the stage. My husband and I donned rain coats and draped plastic over out legs in attempts to stay relatively dry. It was all a little bit futile. Our raincoats didn’t have hoods, so the rain dripped down our noses and spattered our glasses so we could barely see.

Thankfully Thirsty Merc delivered one of the best performances I’ve seen them give in some time. I became an early fan of these guys when I saw them support Maroon 5 way back when, but somewhere along the way their live sets became a little lacklustre. Last night though it was almost like they felt they needed to give back to the poor soggy crowd, to make it worth our while. I was a little disappointed by the Slideshows-heavy set list, but I suppose it was to be expected. But they played those songs with gusto, and for a while it made us forget just how miserable it was to be outside.

Then it was time for the main event. I’ll warn you now, I can’t really talk about a Matchbox Twenty show objectively. I’ve followed them devotedly for the last 12 years, and they simply mean more to me than any other band does. Some might say that they mean more to me than any band should.

So when they started up with “How Far We’ve Come” I was simply overwhelmed. That song was a great big loud energetic blur of emotion for me. I couldn’t help but think exactly how far we have come. When I started to see this band I was an angsty 16-year-old attending high school and working a Coles checkout to make some extra cash. Now I’m a writer, a wife, an aunty. So much has changed, yet this band has been this amazing constant in my life. How far we’ve come indeed.

Pleasant musings over, I started to get a little annoyed. Concert etiquette just isn’t what it used to be. In my day, you’d never dream of moving from your nosebleed seats and standing in front of people who had paid for good seats. You’d also never stand in front of those people and have a conversation rather than watch the band. Needless to say, I might have lost my temper with some rude people who did just that. When you come between me and my favourite band apparently I get quite scary because they scattered. Once I could stand in their spots and actually have a decent view I was so much happier.

Greatest hits tours are interesting, because you’re never completely sure what you’re going to get. Sure there are the obvious singles, but there are rarely enough of those to fill a set. With no new album to spruik, Matchbox Twenty reached back into the vault for some fan favourites.

My favourite part of the set was a stripped back acoustic bracket. It began with “Hang” from Yourself or Someone Like You. I’d never heard it live before, and I was overwhelmed. OK I admit it, I became the token crying girl. I managed to compose myself for “If You’re Gone” but the waterworks started again for “Hand Me Down.” Yes it’s a little embarrassing to admit it, but I tell you so you can understand just how moving their performance was. Few bands touch an audience like that, and it’s a real gift.

Covers have always been a highlight of the Matchbox Twenty live experience, and the band decided to make it extra special this time around. Rob told us that they were learning a different Australian song for each local show, a move that earned rapturous applause. And so they launched into the unexpected Kylie Minogue chart topper, “Can’t Get You Out of My Head.” Yes it was a whole lot better than the original, but I still detest that song. So when Rob said he wasn’t done with the Aussie stuff yet, I breathed a sigh of relief. What followed was an amazing version of Crowded House’s “Better Be Home Soon,” that had the whole crowd singing along.

The night ended with the obvious closer, “Push.” It was a fitting bookend for “How Far We’ve Come,” a look at those early days, the music that inspired me to stand there like a drowned rat and love every second of it.

Matchbox Twenty Exiled to Australia

Today I received the news I’ve been waiting months to hear. The rumours are true, and my favourite band on the planet, Matchbox Twenty, are returning to Oz.

With the band coming out to promote their greatest hits album Exile on Mainstream, the shows are set to be killer. The tour kicks off on my birthday, April 10, in Melbourne (fancy that!) before heading to Adelaide, Perth, Sydney, the Hunter Valley, and Brisbane.

I know it’s nearly Christmas and money’s tight, but you have until December 14 to save up for tickets to these must-see shows.

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